Crypto Foodies, Hard to Find Love in the Crypto World?
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Crypto Foodies, Hard to Find Love in the Crypto World?
A family cannot have two gambling addicts.
Navigating Web3 tides with focused insightsAuthor: Freya
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"Food, drink, romance—basic human desires."
Hunger drives us to eat; adulthood drives us toward love. These are universal urges. Attitudes toward relationships reflect both society and industry. Whether in 1990s Taiwan depicted in films or the Web3 era of 2023, people continue to grapple with questions about love and marriage, clashes between old and new values, and the pursuit of life goals.
What is the romantic landscape like in the crypto world? "Would you (still) look for a partner within the crypto space?"
We ran a poll on X (formerly Twitter), and the results showed that 51.9% said no, 13.9% said yes, and 34.2% were indifferent.
With curiosity and questions in mind, we spoke with numerous individuals inside and outside the industry about their love lives—some lamenting heartless men, others accusing unfaithful women, while some couples remain deeply connected.
Dating in Crypto Can Be Risky
Restlessness is one of the defining traits of people in crypto.
Choosing to enter crypto means embracing an unstable lifestyle, fundamentally different from conventional norms.
Moving constantly between countries and cities, those in crypto rarely have time for romance.
Frequent business trips, non-stop events, last-minute cancellations of dates, meals interrupted by cross-border conference calls, video chats while monitoring market charts, late-night networking calls, insomnia lasting until dawn—these are all standard fare.
Such scenarios have become routine in crypto relationships. Occasionally, things get even darker.
The joke "Getting intimate only for your partner to lose steam mid-act due to sudden market volatility" has become an industry meme.
Although crypto professionals travel globally, most work remotely, immersed 24/7 in the ecosystem, leaving little chance to meet people outside the bubble.
Xiao Qi, relatively new to the space, met her ex-boyfriend through a dating app—they both worked in crypto.
At first, she believed she’d found her soulmate. "There’s little time or mental energy to truly get to know someone, and everyone’s guarded," she said.
According to Xiao Qi, her boyfriend’s carefully crafted persona quickly crumbled. Once the novelty wore off, his NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) tendencies emerged—he was self-obsessed, loving only himself.
Accustomed to multitasking at work, some in crypto also enjoy multiple romantic partners simultaneously. Many maintain specific dating connections in different cities or countries without pursuing long-term intimacy with any of them.
Xiao Qi added, the crypto world has many women who are both intelligent and beautiful—but also many chasing shortcuts. If your partner is surrounded by such temptations, insecurity is inevitable.
Relationships lacking consistency and full of uncertainty drive former lovers to retreat and protect themselves.
Even well-known players in the scene admit they stick to a rule: never date women within the industry—"too easy to face social embarrassment."
Xiao N, who’s had firsthand experience dating within the industry, learned hard lessons.
"The industry is too small—you’re bound to run into each other. After a breakup, seeing them again is awkward, and it’s easy to become gossip. Private details from your relationship may be aired out by your ex and spread across the community."
Beyond emotional dynamics, when family responsibilities come into play, those in crypto are often excluded from consideration altogether.
In our Twitter survey, most cited family reasons for avoiding partners in crypto. In short:
"A household shouldn’t have two gamblers."
Andrew, a crypto professional, told TechFlow he would never date a woman in the space: "If someone can’t settle down, if their ambition and desire are too great, they can’t be a gentle mother. Without a gentle mother, a family is unlikely to thrive for three generations."
Others worry that a crypto wife knowing wallet management and seed phrases is terrifying.
Many outsiders still view blockchain and crypto through a biased lens. They don’t want future spouses involved in what they see as speculation or scams.
In Crypto, No One Wants to Depend on Anyone
When YOYO hangs out with crypto colleagues, a curious pattern emerges: people in the space seem to look down on each other romantically.
"Don’t date crypto guys—they’re only here to make quick money. All they care about is profit, not love."
YOYO has seen too many whose values twisted after hitting it big in the industry. She never considers crypto men as potential partners.
They reek of greed, are overly pragmatic, and commodify everything—including love and women.
"Win and party with models; lose and go dig ditches," "One token, one model"—these have become rallying cries during bull markets.
Legends abound in upscale KTVs in major Chinese cities about miners and crypto tycoons spending lavishly.
Many in crypto rose from humble beginnings. Sudden wealth fueled by luck and opportunity often brings a sense of overcompensation.
"What I once lacked, I now must enjoy double."
Especially for those working at exchanges or projects, pressure from market swings is compounded by complex, unpredictable risks.
Their jobs are "thrilling," with every tomorrow uncertain. This leads many to adopt "live in the moment, live freely" as a creed. Tales of prominent figures’ escapades abroad circulate regularly.
You Only Live Once—YOLO.
"Seize the day, drink tonight’s wine today"—living freely feels liberating, but could be disastrous for a partner.
Some female professionals say that dating a crypto guy requires lowering expectations: "He can love you and treat you well, but he’ll likely still play around."
Men in crypto share similar anxieties.
"Hard to keep up," says Nil. Many crypto women frequently party, gamble, attend business gatherings, and interact closely with top figures. With so many LSPs (perverts) in crypto, he feels insecure too.
Additionally, some men say dating women in crypto offers poor ROI.
Having seen cases like "a 1991-born gold-digger in finance who drained a man of 50 million yuan and had other sugar daddies," some crypto men now analyze relationships like investments, seeking higher "return on investment."
"Crypto women have already seen money; spending won’t impress them easily. For the same budget, you could dominate in traditional industries, easily using 'money power' to find prettier, simpler partners."
Crypto Couples: Love and Career Success?
Do the above points and those salacious PDFs circulating in WeChat groups make you doubt love itself? But perhaps this reflects survivorship bias.
The hurt cry out loud; the happy stay silent, quietly joyful under the covers.
King, a professional, says there are many "underground couples" in crypto who keep their relationships private and low-key—even working together without others realizing they’re a couple.
This isn’t limited to Chinese circles—many such hidden relationships exist in global crypto communities too.
At a crypto VC that invested in Farcaster and other notable projects, the founder and a female partner are secretly in a relationship.
Sienna, formerly at a top Silicon Valley crypto VC, understands this well. Her boyfriend is a well-known project founder. In her view, dating within the industry risks being labeled "so-and-so’s boyfriend/girlfriend," inviting unwarranted assumptions.
Lisa, who married her crypto partner, now lives by one principle: stay low-profile—even avoiding posting wedding photos on social media.
"Crypto folks love gossip too much. After finally finding someone, better keep it quiet."
Beyond the drama, crypto couples can build meaningful, lasting bonds.
Shared interests, deep mutual understanding, taking turns trading and farming tokens, supporting each other through accumulation phases—the possibilities are real.
Niki, a seasoned business manager in crypto, was thrown into meetings on her first day—her KPI: add 300 contacts. For someone socially anxious, it was daunting.
Thankfully, she met her current crypto boyfriend, who encouraged her and helped her succeed.
Over the years, they’ve grown professionally side by side. Niki told TechFlow she’s realized dating outside the industry brings more issues.
Her outsider ex couldn’t understand her work, leading to constant arguments.
"Crypto is either me scamming you or you scamming me," her ex once said.
Due to regulatory concerns, he thought the domestic industry too risky and kept urging Niki to leave.
Her reply: "I can love you, but not enough to give up my career."
Thus, Niki believes being with someone in the same field allows mutual understanding and shared growth.
To veteran Feimo, avoiding crypto partners is a false dilemma: "Even if you date someone outside, they’ll eventually join the space and become part of it."
Feimo once dated a crypto guy; though they parted ways, she still hopes to find love in the industry.
"Forever young, forever moved to tears," Feimo believes crypto lovers form revolutionary bonds.
"Bleeding together from liquidations, profiting together, fighting through nights, endlessly curious about new things, becoming digital nomads exploring the globe. To be young is to be open-minded and energetic—that’s the core of crypto."
On criticism toward women in crypto, Feimo stands firm: in her eyes, crypto women make excellent partners for love and marriage.
"Crypto women learn fast—one day farming DeFi yields, the next researching pixel-art IP narratives. You don’t need to fear they’ll be scammed, or suffer dementia later. Even doing square dancing, they’ll be the hottest fighter jets."
"A crypto girl might not cook, but she knows how to hire help without getting ripped off. She knows the best global nomad spots for beauty treatments and property investment, times her egg freezing right, gives birth in bear markets, and when crypto income dries up, she shifts focus to long-term plays in U.S. stocks or forex…"
In crypto, many loving couples do reach happy endings, walking down the aisle together.
Arthur Breitman and Kathleen Breitman co-founded Tezos. Their story began with a cold invite.
Back then, Kathleen was a sophomore, attending a lunch for classical libertarians interested in anarcho-capitalism in New York. Arthur was a quant analyst at Goldman Sachs.
They bonded over political philosophy and crypto learning, eventually launching Tezos—and falling in love. Foreign media once jokingly dubbed them the "cash-grab couple" due to Tezos’ massive fundraising.
Stani Kulechov, founder of Aave, married Paris Rouzati, formerly a partner at IDEO, who later joined Aave as Head of Ecosystem.
Paris is named after the city, so Stani proposed in Paris. In Aave’s early days, things were tough, but his wife stood firmly by him. In past interviews, he said:
"Since May, I’ve slept about four hours a night—too busy. I’m lucky to have the most supportive wife in the world. She helps me in countless ways, and I’m deeply grateful."
On July 4, 2023, their son Bear Atlas Kulechov was born in London—and immediately received a domain on Lens, Stani’s decentralized social platform. From day one, he became a "baby on chain"—a uniquely crypto romance.
Across the Chinese crypto world—from exchanges to projects, VCs, and media—there are numerous crypto power couples who support each other professionally and achieve remarkable success.
Some say that love is the moment when all rules shatter.
No matter the market cycle, may everyone find their heart-racing moment and turn love into lasting union.
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